Hey there dear Drama Queens
Today’s blog is all about break ups ad how people treat each other during this final stage of most relationships. I know most people out there would have been broken up with someone or have been dumped by someone. So most people will probably be able to relate with what I am about to say.
Has anyone else realised that when a relationship ends usually one of the two parties is left with severe issues. This is usually not due to what was going on during the relationship, although of course there are exceptions to this, but mainly due to the breakup itself. I want you to think back at time when you have had a relationship ended by someone else and think about how that person went about doing it and what latent issues that left in your psyche?
See? That’s exactly what I mean. The relationship might have been good but because the breakup was bad the memory is forever tainted. What’s most ANNOYING is that these issues are then carried into the next relationship. This is when the problems begin; people need to consider that when they break up in a bad manner with someone and they leave them with issues this is always going to be reflected in their future relationships and this is what people commonly call “baggage”. Think about how many people you found attractive and decided to pursue a relationship with them, only to realise that they are “damaged” due to their former relationship and their former break up. Isn’t it annoying? The thing is this situation goes both ways, I am sure people have been in the place of the person with the Baggage as well.
That’s why I implore you all out there reading this to take this into consideration and make the breakup as painless as possible. If not for any other reason as to the next person your ex will date. If this is done by more and more people it will eventually come back to you without knowing it. Someone you might date in the future who could have been damaged by a break up will be baggage free due to the person who broke up with them doing so in a positive manner.
I know most of you will say that there are some people out the that if you don’t do the break up in a bad way then the other person will not get that the relationship is over. In this case I say think back and consider whether you have led this person on. And if you have make sure you give them closure rather than issues and baggage, please if you don’t want to do this for the rest of us, do it for yourself and you future relationships.
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DQB